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Mending
a
Broken
Heart
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Real Love
Takes Time
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Repaired
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The DIY Repair
While it is not recommended, that you
try and resolve your
broken trust without
proper counseling and choose to Do It Yourself,
it can be done, but
expect distrust to
continue longer, when
the you both are not
willing to seek
professional help.
The potential for
continued abuse,
misuse, repeat offenses, are much higher when
two people have a
broken trust and try to resolve their problem alone.
Physical abuse should never go unreported.
When it comes to true
love and devotion
between two people, nothing is impossible
so long as both people
can restore respect and truly apologize for any wrongs
that were done
in the relationship.
Not all relationships can
be resolved, and this is difficult, but time does
heal a broken heart. God meant for us to love one
another and there is a perfect match for you. It
is up to you to be patient and they will find you.
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Fixing Your Broken
Relationship
How to Get Your Ex Back
First off,
not all relationships are fixable. Knowing if your
relationship can be repaired and you can continue to
enjoy the relationship you want to see last, depends
not
just with you but also with your partner.
Who Should Take the Blame
As with every broken relationship, the blame game is
what surfaces first and then the fallout goes south from
there. Blaming, is really about who did something the
other person was not
expecting.
In every relationship, there was the initial good
times and building of trust between two people. Then
regardless of
how much time has passed, since the ground rules
were established, one person made a mistake that was
determined by the one who was hurt or offended.
Although,
it took two to come together, often times both
people made changes in the relationship that may
have sparked the
broken trust.
Owning the mistake is the first step
If the partner who caused the distrust or has
offended the other, they must accept that they made
a mistake. This is
the first indication that they are willing or
unwilling, to own
up to what they did, and if they still have a desire
to stay
in the relationship.
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Arguing is a waste of time
Everyone argues, but in reality, the arguing is
totally
useless. Your verbal unloading, of all the
things you are
upset about
with the other person, is just an indication
of just
how hurt or disappointed you are in what the
other person did to break your trust. The sooner you
calmly explain how hurt you are,
is all that is needed to
begin the “fixing” of your
relationship.
Accepting Responsibility
Owning up to the mistake is important, if you have
any
desire to sincerely repair the relationship’s
breakdown.
If the one who did the breaking of the trust does
not
admit
to being at fault, or is willing to repair the
damage done,
this is a strong indication the
relationship may not
be repairable.
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Rebuilding Trust
There is no set amount of time that
rebuilding trust can take, it could be
days, weeks, or years. This is
determined by what was done that
broke the trust to begin with. Never
should there be comments made to
the offender that they cannot be trusted
again on an ongoing basis. This will
defeat the offender’s efforts to keep
trying to get the trust restored. Trust
is a sacred thing that takes time to
build and rebuilding it takes even longer.
What Caused the Broken Trust
to Happen
Just because the person who broke the trust between you,
did what they did, there were circumstances that led up
to their actions. No two people, completely happy with
each other, ever chooses to break their trust without a
reason or reasons.
Can the Relationship Be Saved
After both people have aired out the
broken trust and what caused the
breakup to happen, and both parties
accept their part in what took place,
or why things had changed from both
parties being completely happy
together, can you both be willing to
seek counseling?
There are people who are educated
in human relationships and know far
more in how to resolve broken
relationships, than either one of you
in this situation. If both of you are
willing to attend counseling, then
there is a good indication that you
both want the relationship to last.
Forgiveness is Hard
Trying to forgive your partner is not easy,
but if
calm and constructive discussion between you and
your partner is possible, with no one else involved,
you can begin a forgiveness promise that you are
willing to offer the one
who broke the trust, if they will accept that they
were to
blame for breaking the trust you had.
Forgiveness is earned not bestowed. If the person
who
broke the trust is willing to give you time to
decide if
repair is possible, then this shows that all is not
lost.
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